How and when... It is often not easy to negotiate safe sex. - When and how do you start?
- Which words do you use?
- Won't you turn off your partner by beginning about this topic?
These are some of the questions and fears that go through a persons mind when they want to talk about safe sex. Sometimes you suddenly or unexpectedly want to have sex with someone but you do not have any condoms with you. Other times you have had too much to drink and are not being careful. Or you think sex with a condom is a bit of a nuisance. There are numerous excuses for not having safe sex.
Unsafe sex is possible to avoid if you talk about it. But how do you do that? And when do you start? These tips may help: - Work out in advance when and how you will say you want to have safe sex. If you know that before you start having sex, it is easier to stick to it.
- Say honestly that you do not want to catch an STI. That does not mean you ‘do not trust' the other person. You are just telling them what you think. Besides, in this way you show respect for yourself and for your partner.
- If you say, "I never do it without one" or "I never do it without a condom" then your partner will know that you want protection. You do not even have to mention STIs. Your partner will know what you are talking about. If they do not then explain to them about STIs and unplanned pregnancy.
But talking is not the only way to make it easier for you to always have safe sex! - Simply take a condom and put it on yourself or your partner!
- Make sure you always have a supply of condoms, even if you are not expecting to have sex with anyone. Sex often happens spontaneously.
|
