Type of Sexual Contact | Description | Risk of STI? | Risk of HIV? | Risk of pregnancy? |
Safe sex (vaginal and anal intercourse with condom, oral sex with condom or dental dam: to minimize chance of infection) | Sex is performed with a condom, oral sex with a condom or with a dental dam. |  Safe
| Safe | Safe
>Going Double Dutch is even safer. That means using both a condom and a contraceptive (such as the Pill) to reduce risk of unplanned pregnancy. |
Sexual intercourse (coitus) | A man uses his penis to penetrate the woman's vagina (after which one or both may or may not climax/get an orgasm). |  Unsafe
>High STI risk of hepatitis B, gonorrhoea, chlamydia, syphilis, genital warts, genital herpes, scabies and pubic lice.
>Always use a certified and reliable condom (with CE mark and not expired). >Use a water based lubricant if necessary (woman not getting wet enough). | Unsafe
>High risk of HIV. >Always use a certified and reliable condom (with CE mark and not expired). >Use a water based lubricant if necessary (woman not getting wet enough). | Unsafe
>High risk of pregnancy. Sperm is contained in pre-seminal/pre-cum and in sperm. These will get in the vagina during intercourse. >Use contraception such as the Pill, an injectable contraceptive, male or female condom, IUD (coil), diaphragm (cap) or ring.
>Your doctor can help you make a choice on which contraceptive suits you best (depending on your lifestyle, age, and so on).
>Going Double Dutch is even safer. That means using both a condom and a contraceptive (such as the Pill) to reduce risk of unplanned pregnancy. |
Withdrawal (coitus interruptus, pulling out) | The penis is withdrawn from the vagina just before ejaculation. | Unsafe
>An STI can be passed on during contact between penis and vagina.
>Always use a certified and reliable condom (with CE mark and not expired).
>Use a water based lubricant if necessary (woman not getting wet enough). | Unsafe
>High risk of HIV.
>The HIV virus is contained in vaginal juices, semen and in the mucous membranes of an infected person. If genitals touch the virus can be transmitted.
>Always use a certified and reliable condom (with CE mark and not expired).
>Use a water based lubricant if necessary (woman not getting wet enough). | Unsafe
>There may be sperm in the pre-seminal fluid. This can get into the vagina during contact of unprotected sexual organs.
>Use contraception such as the pill, an injectable contraceptive, male or female condom, IUD (coil), diaphragm (cap) or ring. |
Anal intercourse(the Greek way, back door) | A man uses his penis to penetrate his partner's anus. | Unsafe
>High STI risk of hepatitis B, gonorrhoea, chlamydia, syphilis, genital warts, genital herpes, scabies and pubic lice.
>Always use a certified and reliable condom (with CE mark and not expired) with plenty of water based lubricant applied both on the condom and inside the anus.
>There are special condoms for anal sex available, but the normal condoms are good too. | Unsafe
>High risk of HIV.
>Always use a certified condom (with CE mark and not expired)with plenty of water based lubricant applied on the condom and inside the anus.
>There are special condoms for anal sex available, but the normal condoms are good too. | Safe
>Make sure no semen ‘leaks' into the vagina. |
Licking (giving oral sex to a woman, cunnilingus) | Stimulating the vagina (clitoris and vulva) with mouth and tongue. | Unsafe
>Even if the woman is not menstruating.
>High risk of STI. Could be passed on during contact between penis and mouth.
>Use a dental dam or a cut-open condom placed on the vagina. | Safe
>As long as there's no contact with menstrual blood.
>Safe for the person being licked. | Safe |
Sucking (giving oral sex to a man, giving head, fellatio) | Stimulating the penis with mouth and tongue. | Unsafe
>High risk of STI. Could be passed on during contact between penis and mouth.
>Use a condom on the penis. | Safe
>Unless the person giving oral sex gets semen in their mouth. The risk increases if the person giving oral sex has cuts, wounds, abrasions in the mouth or has just had some dental work done.
>Safe for the person being sucked. | Safe |
Rimming | stimulating the anus with your tongue and lips (licking your partner on the anus). | Unsafe >High risk of STI.
>Risk of passing on chlamydia, ghonorrhoea, syphilis and Hepatitis A.
>Use a condom that is cut open or a dental dam to put on your partner's anus before licking. | Safe >Safe unless there is blood because of anal sex or haemorrhoids(piles). | Safe |
Masturbation (fingering, pleasuring yourself and/or your partner with the hands) | Arousing and/or bringing to orgasm yourself and/or your partner by stimulating the penis, clitoris or anus. | Safe
>As long as one person's semen, vaginal fluid, secretions from the rectum or menstrual blood doesn't come into contact with the other person's genitals/anus. For instance via fingers. | Safe
>Slightly risky if one person's semen or vaginal fluids comes into contact with the other person's genitals/anus. For instance via fingers. | Safe
>As long as no semen or pre-seminal fluid on fingers or hands gets into the vagina. |
Sex toys | Inserting or rubbing toys, for example, a vibrator or dildo, into your partner's penis, vagina or anus. | Unsafe
>If partners use the same toy. >Use one toy per person. >Use a reliable condom or clean the toys thoroughly between sharing if toy is shared. | Unsafe
>If partners use the same toy. >Use one toy per person. >Use a reliable condom or clean the toys thoroughly between sharing if toy is shared. | Safe
>As long as no semen or pre-seminal fluid on a toy gets into the vagina. >Use a reliable condom or wash the toy thoroughly between sharing if shared. |
Genital rubbing (body rubbing) | Genitals or anus touch but the penis doesn't enter the vagina or anus (no penetration). | Unsafe
>An STI can be passed on during contact between penis, vagina and/or anus.
>Use a dental dam or a cut-open condom placed on the vagina or anus, and/or a condom on the penis.
>Scabies and pubic lice can also be passed on during close bodily contact. | Safe
>Unless pre-seminal fluid or semen enters the vagina or anus.
>Use a dental dam or a cut-open condom placed on the vagina or anus, and/or a condom on the penis. | Safe
>Unless pre-seminal fluid semen or pre-cum enters the vagina.
>Use a dental dam or a cut-open condom placed on the vagina or anus, and/or a condom on the penis.
>Going Double Dutch is even safer. That means using both a condom and a contraceptive (such as the Pill) to reduce risk of unplanned pregnancy. |
Massaging/ stroking | Stroking, caressing and fondling each other (all over the body) with the hands, perhaps using massage oil as well. | Safe
>Use a condom if this leads to vaginal or anal penetration. In that case, make sure the condom doesn't come into contact with the massage oil. Oils will damage the condom. | Safe
>Unless there are wounds, sores and other abrasions on the body that might come into contact with blood of an infected person.
>Use a condom if this leads to vaginal or anal penetration. In that case, make sure the condom doesn't come into contact with the massage oil. Oils will damage the condom. | Safe
>Unless this leads to penetration (penis in the vagina), or pre-cum or semen gets into the vagina through fingers and so on.
>Use a condom if this leads to vaginal or anal penetration. In that case, make sure the condom doesn't come into contact with the massage oil. Oils will damage the condom. |
Kissing, deep kissing, French kissing | Touching your partner's mouth and tongue with your mouth and tongue. | Safe
>If one of you has an STI in the mouth then there is a small danger of gonorrhoea, syphilis, Candida and hepatitis B being passed on.
>If you can taste blood, a slight risk of hepatitis B.
>Use a condom if this leads to vaginal or anal penetration. | Safe
>Use a condom if this leads to vaginal or anal penetration. | Safe
>Use a condom if this leads to vaginal or anal penetration. |
Sado Masochism(S.M) Sadism is: Becoming sexually excited by hurting or degrading another person Masochism is: Experiencing sexual enjoyment by receiving pain or degradation | Sado masochism is experiencing sexual enjoyment or satisfaction through inflicting or receiving painful and degrading treatment. | Safe
>As long as genitals, anus and mouth that might touch are protected with condoms.
>Use condoms to protect shared toys and so on.
>Clean all objects, materials and toys thoroughly after use. | Safe
>As long as no blood flows, sharp objects are shared or wounds are inflicted.
>Use condoms to protect shared toys and so on.
>Clean all objects, materials and toys thoroughly after use. | Safe
>As long as pre-cum and or semen doesn't get into the vagina. |
